Better Than Being Needlessly Negative

The delightful Lisa Haneberg has offered the to-be list.

Two key items on the A to-be list for the courageous section have been important to me this week.

• I will not play the victim. I will be in control and responsible.
• I will be genuinely happy for others who courageously excel.

My family has been horrendous with regards to item one. “Curses of the Hill’s” is regularly banded about should two generations of the Hill family meet.

I have known myself to use the expression victim of circumstance on occasion. No more. Circumstances are of my own making, it’s my awareness of them that needs to be called to question.

On item two, I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of not adhering to that one. Maybe because there are people we don’t like, maybe jealousy, who knows.

On a general level, I resented Chelsea throughout this season for winning the league without challenge. No more of that. Regardless of the money they have at their disposal another team could have got it together and mounted a challenge. So I congratulate Chelsea for what they have done this season, retaining a title isn’t easy.


And these two items can work together. Taking credit for a piece of work for example:

You work on a project with other colleagues and play your part to your usual high standard. One person, who you are sure did no more work than you, gets fingered to take the credit by onlookers.

Item one: Are you the victim? No. Why? Because you didn’t get enough attention drawn to what you were doing. Maybe your network isn’t up to scratch. You can see the room for improvement immediately. You have something to learn from and work with. Do it and get your rewards later.

Item two: Are you happy for your colleague? Well, you should be. There’s a lesson there for you too. Is their network up to scratch? Did they market their achievement where you thought it was ok to let the work speak for itself? Do they have a more efficient way of working than you have which gave the appearance that they were doing less than you?

When you look beneath the surface of an event which didn’t go your way, much better to ask the right questions and learn from it than blame circumstance and become envious.

Lisa, you’re quite right. This is breakthrough stuff!

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